Gene Keys Venus Sequence: Harnessing Relationship Energy for Personal Transcendence
Part 5: Gene Keys Pathway of Karma and the Sphere of IQ
*****8-Part Consecutive Exploration into the Gene Keys*****
This is part 5 of 8.
For part 1 go here. (Introduction to the Venus Sequence)
For part 2 go here. (On Contemplation)
For part 3 go here (Sphere of Purpose)
For part 4 go here (Sphere of Attraction)
For part 6 go here (Sphere of EQ)
For part 7 go here (Sphere of SQ)
For part 8 go here (Sphere of Core Wound)
To read the basics of the Gene Keys, go here.
For the Activation Series, check out my post on Impeccability, here.
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The IQ Sphere: Unraveling Your Mental Blueprint and Karmic Patterns
The Gene Keys Venus Sequence invites us to explore the core wounds and patterns that shape our lives and relationships. In the Venus Sequence, the Sphere of IQ—positioned between the Sphere of Attraction and the Sphere of EQ—is where our mental patterns and belief systems take shape. These patterns, formed during adolescence (ages 14–21), are deeply influenced by earlier emotional imprinting (from ages 7–14) and ultimately guide how we “do” life, especially in relationships. The IQ Sphere reveals the personal policies and stories we create—often unconsciously—that dictate our responses and trigger our defenses in interactions with others.
The Pathway of Karma, which connects the Sphere of Attraction to the Sphere of IQ, reveals how these patterns are interwoven with the universal field of thought and how they manifest in our experiences.
Remember from our contemplation of the pathway of dharma that dharma attracts the people, situations, and experiences that take the shape and feel of the Gene Key and line in your attraction sphere all in the name of leading us closer to embodying our purpose.
As we connect the dots, we can infer that HOW you respond to your dharma is connected with the karma that you build and create for yourself in this lifetime.
Karma is the means to our transcendence. Plain and simple.
Deep karma in your life are rivalries, big conflicts, friendships lost, the wreckage you may have left on your path. Or the wreckage in which you were left. But karma offers us freedom. The pathway of karma is also a path of liberation from our triggers.
Because you created this along with your soul, the karma was planned or co-created by you. So it can only be for your highest good and for the highest good of all you touch and have touched you.
The sanskaras are aspect of the sacred wound and linked to events in your life that have shaped your worldview. The Gene Key you have in the sphere of IQ, as well as its line keynote, provide clues for how karma has shaped your worldview and the main theme and flavor that your policies take.
The beauty of this lesson and this journey is that all these reactions, triggers, events, people, big arguments, are here to be understood, then transmuted. We are not meant to keep a hardened heart. We are meant to look at the hurt in the eye and transcend it. The shadow, gift, and siddhi of your IQ light the way.
The Sphere of IQ: Governing Our Psychology
The Sphere of IQ governs the intellectual framework through which we navigate the world. It is the realm of mental samskaras—the imprints and habitual thought patterns that shape our perception and responses. These mental samskaras are not isolated but are deeply rooted in the emotional stories we internalized during childhood, particularly in the Sphere of EQ (which we will get to, don’t worry).
Mental Stories and Personal Policies
The Sphere of IQ represents the "personal policies" or narratives we create to explain our experiences and make sense of the world. For example, if emotional wounds in childhood (EQ) taught us that vulnerability was unsafe, the IQ might develop a mental strategy to avoid vulnerability, such as intellectualizing emotions or building walls in relationships.
These mental patterns often become the root of our triggers in relationships. When an external situation challenges our mental stories, it can elicit strong reactions, whether in romantic, platonic, or professional settings. For instance, someone who believes "love must be earned through achievement" might feel triggered by perceived rejection or lack of validation.
The Gene Key and line in this sphere are clues to how you developed your mental stories and personal policies.
I think one of the reasons that I had a hard time writing about the sphere of IQ is that this is what rules our values conflict. So stay with me as I ponder this. The emotional body dictates our thoughts. Our feelings and emotions are deeply correlated with our thought patterns. When you feel sad, you think sad thoughts. Or, you think sad thoughts, then your body droops, lacks energy, maybe even cries. The body must be convinced that something is true in order to embody it. And the body will act out your values, policies and all these worldviews that have been shaped psychologically in us, conditioned in us, as a result of our emotional experiences from about age 3 onward.
Therefore, the IQ’s filter will either validate or cancel whether something hurts, triggers, helps, makes us happy, brings us down, is dangerous, etc. Meaning, if a situation that is triggering you in the present is something your body validated in previous situations, then you’re going to respond in that same pattern and further validate and cement that particular belief. Even if and especially when it is not true, not what you want, not what your heart desires, and not what your soul had in mind when it decided to incarnate into what is today, you.
The Concept of Values Conflicts
That is the main rub with manifesting. There are so many records playing in your subconscious mind about whether something is “good” or “bad” for us, which by definition are not known to our conscious mind. These beliefs or values may be in conflict with one another.
For example, when I went through my second divorce I was in debt, had full custody of three kids and wished to get ahead financially. I had set a life goal to pay for their college tuition so that they’d graduate debt free and give them a head start in life. I had to do a lot of digging into my values around money. I uncovered a belief: “the more I make, the more they take.” There is a lot to unpack in that statement and that’s a story for another day. The point is that my heart wished to support my kids and get them through college. And my subconscious was saying the more money you make the more others will try to take it from you.
Another common values conflict I see is the one around weight loss. We gain weight for a reason. The body is trying to tell us something, to stay safe, etc. Try as we might to do all the right things, follow all the right eating plans, exercise regimens and habits, we cannot ever reach our ideal goal weight because our subconscious is running the show and if we don’t uncover what’s hiding in there, the conflict never gets resolved.
Now, what does this have to do with the Sphere of IQ and the Venus Sequence?
The sphere of IQ in the Venus Sequence represents the subconscious patterns and beliefs we formed from earlier experiences, maybe even past lives. These patterns shape how we respond to mental challenges, conflicts, and relationships. Values conflicts often originate here, deeply embedded in our psyche from experiences, cultural and societal conditioning, and family dynamics. They can trap us in cycles of self-sabotage until we bring them into awareness and resolve them.
Karma and dharma play crucial roles in the sphere of IQ. Relationships, especially those that trigger us, act as mirrors to these patterns. Every conflict, every disagreement, and every tension becomes an opportunity for pattern interruption.
This is why the Venus Sequence is such a profound tool for self-awareness. It shows us where our values conflicts lie and how they stem from our subconscious programming. When we confront these conflicts head-on, we begin to free ourselves and live more aligned with our soul’s purpose. In relationships, this looks like moving from blame, complaining, and projection to curiosity, compassion, and acceptance.
We begin to ask: What lesson is this conflict bringing me? How is this person, problem, or experience helping me see a part of myself that needs healing?
Pattern interruption is the key. It is the conscious choice to respond differently in the face of a familiar trigger. Instead of falling into the same argument or shutting down emotionally, we pause, observe, and choose a new response. This is the alchemy of the Venus Sequence: transforming conflict into clarity, pain into wisdom, and resistance into love.
In the end, values conflicts are not obstacles but invitations. And through the sphere of IQ, they remind us that every relationship is a classroom, every trigger a teacher, and every conflict a portal to our highest potential.
How to Contemplate the Sphere of IQ
It is helpful to go back to your journals, report cards, favorite songs, books, movies, activities, vacations, trips, teachers, friends, lovers, family dynamics and everything you can remember about your experiences between ages 14 and 21. Talk to relatives, friends, go back through social media posts, calendar, emails, whatever you can do to remember what shaped your worldview. I created a pdf for you to download and print and hand write into. I believe it’s better to use paper and pen, though I wrote into my iPad (image below).
Write unabashedly, no one has to see it without your permission. What patterns are being revealed to you? Have you carried these patterns with you? Or have you released some along the way?
As with all other contemplations of the other Gene Keys, write out the specific key and line you have in the sphere of IQ, what are your initial reactions to the shadow and its repressive and reactive nature? How do you interact with your shadow? what are your tendencies?
What is the gift of this gene key and how has it manifested in your life?
Dog Deeper: Download my 5-page companion guide, designed to help you deepen your contemplation of this sphere.
Next Steps: Reprogramming the Subconscious
So what do we do once we know our triggers? To recap, the subconscious mind discharges emotions into our body, these emotions cause us to respond to triggers. These triggers form patterns that eventually form part of our identity. To break these patterns, we must recognize the triggers and reprogram the subconscious. The shadow patterns in the sphere of our IQ help us to understand and open the door to liberation from these patterns.
Everyday triggers manifest in various ways. And what triggers me may not trigger you. For instance, a last-minute meeting scheduled by our boss might make you feel undervalued, while a I might see it as a relief from having to work over the weekend. Or the example of a relative or friend who cannot stop talking about their ailments, some people are validated by sharing all the things that are going wrong, especially when we get older, you would not believe the amount of people who are triggered by this. And there are just as many others who can effortlessly set boundaries and manage to maintain healthy relationships with these people.
Traveling the path of the Venus sequence invites us to free ourselves from our very own traps. As we contemplate our karma and its delicate interdependence with the spheres of attraction, IQ and EQ. The promise of this journey is freedom to live as we were created to live, to follow our heart, and to share our Truth with the world.
How to Reprogram your Triggers
Self Awareness. As Gurdjieff said, if you wish to get out of prison, the first thing you must do is realize that you are in prison. To get out from under your triggers, you must learn to recognize them as such. This is done through self awareness.
Meditation: the number one human hack of them all is meditation. Plain and simple. There is absolutely no other practice known to be as effective as meditation to remind us who we really are, to connect with all that is, to cleanse our thoughts, etc. If you have fallen out of practice, or if you’ve never practiced meditation. Start. Like right now. Close your eyes for the duration of three deep breaths, then come back and keep reading. There. You meditated. When it comes to meditation, everything counts. The longer and more consistent a practice you have, the more benefits you will reap.
Pausing to Sense: this is super easy to do and can be done anywhere any time. I am doing it right now. The only thing you need to do is come back to your body and tune in to all 5 of your senses. What do I see, what do I hear, what do I taste, what do I smell, what do I touch, sense, feel in my body. That’s it. Connect with all of your senses, almost like you are switching each of them on, one at a time. You can do this while you are driving, in a work meeting, making love, at a party, while cooking, etc. You can use the Triple Flame app from the Gene Keys folks, set reminders on your phone, or just whenever you remember to. This is also a life-altering practice. And it is free.
Reprogram: we humans are highly suggestible beings. If we weren’t, there would be no money in the digital ad space. We can use this to our advantage. There are many teachers out there with great programs to do this. The thing is this. Once you’ve recognized your triggers, found out what is causing them, and also know the actual outcome that you do want (i.e. your heart’s Truth), you can get to work on going after the results that you deserve and desire.
The Pattern Interrupt: next time you catch yourself in a knock-down, drag-out with your spouse about the same thing you fought about last month, try a pattern interrupt. Clap your hands, yell a silly word, do something that will snap you out of it. sometimes it will work to snap the other person out of it and a lot of times it will not. But the point is for your inner peace. You are only in charge of yourself.
Guided Meditations and hypnosis to connect with subconscious: There are several great programs out there to thin the veil between our conscious and subconscious. These meditations get you into a relaxed state that allows you to reprogram your subconscious with the results you consciously want to see in your day to day life. I recommend Joe Dispenza’s work, the Silva Method, and Tony Robbins’ Unlimited Power.
Incantations, Affirmations, Switchwords: repetition also helps to put us in a lulled state and makes us suggestible. These are powerful tools for reprogramming the subconscious. Through repetitive, emotionally charged statements or single powerful words (switchwords), we bypass conscious resistance and implant new beliefs. Repetition creates a hypnotic effect, allowing the subconscious mind to become suggestible and open to transformation.
Emotional Freedom Tapping Technique (EFT) is a self-help method that involves tapping on specific meridian points on the body while focusing on emotional issues. This technique helps release stored emotions, reduce stress, and resolve limiting beliefs, allowing the subconscious mind to process and release patterns of fear, trauma, and self-sabotage.
Remember this: you are going to fall, you are going to fail, you are going to be triggered. The point is to notice, remember and do better next time.
Healing from triggers requires building boundaries, which takes time and courage. The gene key and line of the sphere of IQ provide clues about behaviors to aspire to. My shadow here is dishonesty, and I stay safe by omitting the truth. The line four of the sphere of IQ involves maintaining my beliefs and not changing them to keep the peace. True intimacy emerges when I adhere to my values and align with my personal truth.
I would love to know what resonated with you about this?
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